What’s Better than Happiness?

It’s something we want to last. Happiness is what we want for ourselves and others. It’s desirable. It feels good in our bodies. It looks good to our eyes, it eases our minds. Happiness is something strived for by pretty much everyone.

What about the times when happiness isn’t there?

Those times when you are wanting for happiness to┬ábe there, and it’s not.

It’s those times when things aren’t working out. It’s not there to provide that good feeling always.

Contentment is valuable to turn to when happiness is absent or present is something you can choose always. Contentment may be a part of happiness, and it’s the part of happiness that is strong and enduring. Being content, resting into yourself and relying on yourself brings a certain strength. Contentment isn’t about wanting to be filled up with positivity all the time.

It’s about learning to be with yourself when things get shaky, and they do for everyone at times. It’s about accepting what’s enough for yourself. It’s about letting yourself and others go through hard times, in order to learn and grow.

It’s about learning to be ok when things aren’t working out the way you had in mind.

It’s accepting others, no matter what they choose. It’s accepting that other people aren’t always happy when you are.

It’s that inner knowing that everything isn’t meant to be positive all the time.

It’s knowing that always wanting positivity isn’t always a positive thing.

Wanting happiness isn’t always a happy thing.

Worrying and stressing about other people being happy will not bring you happiness. It will not bring other people happiness. Worrying brings more worry. Stress brings more stress.

Acceptance invites in life. Being content invites in more possibilities

What’s better than being happy is letting others go through hard things. It’s letting yourself go through hard things. Experience it all– positive and negative. Allowing life to happen, and having enough respect for others and yourself to experience all that life has to offer you.

Trying to make things be positive isn’t allowing the true, real experiences to come through.

Life may not always be happy, but I appreciate all life has to offer me. I want to experience it all, because that’s what’s real. Hurt is real, love is real, pain is real.

I embrace experiencing it all!

 

 

How to set Intention

The best way I know how to set intentions:

  • Ponder on what you’d like to experience
  • Find the feeling you’re trying to feel through having that experience.
  • Generate that feeling within you; you are already complete
  • Make this your intention.
  • And forget about it.

Don’t stress over it coming true. Bein mad, or sad if it doesn’t happen right away does not help the intention to come into light. Those emotions only produce more of themselves.

Whatever you’re after probably isn’t involving stress, anger, or sadness.

So do we initiate those feelings when setting intentions?

A part of intention setting is setting our emotions where we’d like them to be.

Once the intention is set, it’s already in motion.

You can’t control the outcome, no matter how much you think about it. Control isn’t freedom. Live in the world of possibility, of knowing yourself.

Relax into being. Rest into flow. This is the space where intentions are alive.

What I’ve Learned this Year (so far)

Since January of this year (2019), I’ve moved across the country twice, started a new job, had amazing experiences teaching yoga, met amazing people, and I have learned a lot about myself.

From the beginning of this year, I’ve learned a lot about choices.

I get to deliberately choose the things I want in my life.

I choose where to live, who I interact with, and how I interact with other people.

I choose how I start my day, I choose what I want to do.

I learned that if I don’t choose what I want, then whatever happens, happens by default. I can’t complain about what happens in those times, because in a way I chose that too. I chose it by not choosing.

I learned that if I choose what other people want me to do, then that makes them happy.

If I choose what I want to do, then that makes me happy.

Even within the choices I have already made, I continue to choose either contentment, or dissatisfaction.

Remember Day One

Isn’t it interesting how when we get a new job, we are often enthusiastic about it and so excited to be there. After a few short months, we can feel dissatisfied and negative about it. The job most likely didn’t change very much in that time. It’s us and our experiences and thoughts that continually shape our perspective on everything.

It’s like this with relationships too. When you first get into a relationship, you feel enthusiastic and so in-love. As time passes, you begin to feel maybe not as excited as you once were about things. It seems more routine, or it has become ordinary.

I have learned that it is a continual choice how you feel about the relationship, or the job, or anything else in your life.

You can feel the same way you have felt on day-one, even if it’s months or years later.

I invite you to imagine the very first day of some experience, job, relationship, or even back to the beginning of this year.

What were you feeling, thinking, or believing in during that time?

Live in that moment. Breathe it, see it, feel it.

Is any of what you have experienced on day-one applicable now?

I believe it can be.

Generate those same thoughts, feelings and excitements as you felt when you were most excited about the experience, and I bet you can find some of the same elements in that situation now. Situations change all the time, see if you can find some new things to be excited about, as if it were day-one. Every day can feel like day-one.

Every day there’s something you can find excitement in.

And that’s what I’ve learned this year (so far).